Sunday, July 15, 2018

Heart and Face


Welcome! Last week we began our new series on Shame and Honor. We discussed the idea that one can characterize cultures by the degree to which they exhibit guilt-innocence characteristics, fear-power characteristics, and shame-honor characteristics. We learned that our culture leans strongly towards guilt and innocence, whereas many cultures around the world, especially in Asia, Africa, and the Middle East, lean towards shame and honor. We learned that the cultures in which the Bible was written, both in Old Testament and in New Testament times, were themselves primarily shame-honor cultures, and thus it is of value for us to better understand this kind of culture so that we better understand not only the Bible, but the very heart of God. I also explained that becoming better acquainted with this kind of culture can equip us to be better able to share the good news of the gospel with people who live in this culture – including many people here in America. Last week we also developed the ideas of shame and honor as two ends of a spectrum; to be high in honor is to be low in shame, and vice versa. We talked about the fall of Adam and Eve in Genesis as the beginning of our story of shame; when we disobey God, we bring shame to ourselves, but not only to ourselves, but also to God who made us.


My goal specifically for last week was to open your eyes to this new way of thinking (new for most of us), thinking in a shame-honor mindset. I closed with a powerful passage from Isaiah that speaks of how God will ultimately remove our shame forever and treat us with incredible, undeserved honor.

I want to mention one more thing from last week: We talked about two kinds of honor: ascribed honor, which is honor granted on respect of a person’s family, kinship, name, and “unearned” title, and achieved honor, which is the granting of respect based on various kinds of accomplishment. You have ascribed honor for who you are, and you obtain achieved honor for what you do. In Jesus we see both kinds of honor; with your new “honor-shame” eyes, let’s look at the opening to the book of Hebrews:

In the past God spoke to our ancestors through the prophets at many times and in various ways, but in these last days He has spoken to us by his Son, whom He appointed heir of all things, and through whom also He made the universe. The Son is the radiance of God’s glory and the exact representation of His being, sustaining all things by His powerful word. After He had provided purification for sins, He sat down at the right hand of the Majesty in heaven. So He became as much superior to the angels as the name He has inherited is superior to theirs. – Hebr. 1:1-4

How are you new eyes working? This is powerful stuff! Where in the passage do we see Jesus’ ascribed honor? Well, Jesus is God’s Son, which is a family connection. As Son, whatever glory is due to the Father is also due to the Son. In fact, the passage says that the Son is the radiance of God’s glory, a beautiful image and a title for Jesus. It also says Jesus is God’s appointed heir of all things. These are all things that Jesus did not earn; they are based on who He is, on His position, on His family.

What about Jesus’ achieved honor? Well, it says it was through Him that God made the universe – so that is something Jesus did. He also is the sustainer of the universe, the one that holds it together, and then the passage goes on to say that He provided purification for sins – that is, He died on the cross for us, so that we could be purified, made again honorable. The passage even goes on to say that His achieved honor (by what He did) is as infinitely above the (wonderful) actions of the angels as is His ascribed honor (as God’s Son) is above theirs (which is already higher than that of man – man is “a little lower than the angels”). 

Today I want to focus on the concept of “face.” Face is a foreign concept to most westerners, and it is hard to define. Some words associated with face are dignity, prestige, and reputation. The concept is fairly important in most shame-honor cultures, but some talk about it openly whereas others do not. In Asia, especially China and surrounding countries, it seems to be most out in the open. There is a saying in China that men can’t live without face like trees can’t live without bark. If you think about how bark is an outer covering that is essential to protect the life of a tree, in a similar way face is an outer covering of a person that protects their honor. To put it in a slightly more western way, we could say that your face protects your heart.

The following actions “give” some face: Giving complements often and freely, praising someone in front of their elders or superiors, giving high marks on an evaluation, giving a nice gift, inviting someone to a fancy meal and paying for it. In contrast, the following actions take away a person’s face: Revealing a person’s lack of knowledge or ability, calling out someone on a lie, not showing proper deference to an elder or superior, turning down an invitation (better to say maybe), openly criticizing, challenging, or disagreeing with someone, especially if the person’s superiors are present, and being openly and publicly angry at someone – the latter causes you to lose face as well.

Now, face is a lot more complicated than this, because the rules of face depend heavily on the relative honor status of you and the other person. For example, it is often inappropriate for you to invite a respected elder to a fancy meal, because it is seen as though you are trying to take away his honor and keep it for your own. Honor is often seen as a zero-sum-game; that is, it is often believed that there is only so much honor to go around. In a way, you see this kind of thinking in our culture wherever you see jealousy. I think of Saul’s jealousy over David when the women sang about Saul killing his thousands but David killing his ten thousands. On the flip side of this, the song was an especially dishonoring song to sing about one’s king!

I have come to realize that face issues come up when I have discussed research with some of my graduate students in my office. I have learned that, after I have explained some difficult concept, it is pointless to ask whether they understand, because they will always say yes. Why? Because they don’t want to take away my face. If they tell me they don’t understand, they think it will reflect on my ability as a professor. This is doubly important because I am above them in relative honor status as their research advisor and as an elder, someone significantly older than them.  I have found I need to use indirect questions to get the answers I want. For example, I can give a choice – shall we talk more about this topic or shall we move on to the next one, what would you like? I can almost see their face-calculators running in their heads as they think about this – if the result of the calculation is that either answer is equal in face, then they will give their honest answer. In Asian culture, my experience is that indirect communication is common and essential. 

Face, like honor in general, is also often thought of as a shared characteristic among groups. That is, when an individual loses face, depending on what is involved, how public it is, etc., to some degree their entire family loses face, or their entire company loses face, or even in extreme cases, their entire country loses face. In China a few years ago there was a rapid succession of incidents of people being found out who were doing abhorrent things in their food production such as using cardboard, rat meat, etc. Because this made news all over the world, China saw it as losing the face of their whole country, and they made new laws and punished those involved severely. On the flip side, when China hosted the Olympics, they spared no expense and had what was in my opinion an amazing opening ceremony because they saw it as a unique opportunity to gain face around the world. In contrast, when something very bad happens, an honor-shame-driven country may resort to censorship to try to minimize the loss of face. This happened a few years ago when in China when an enormous explosion occurred at a dock where large amounts of fertilizer had been stored – a fire set off the explosion, and many people died. It turns out that the materials should not have been stored there; this was a violation of safety and other policies. China’s punishment for those most responsible was a delayed death sentence. This is more common in China than a “regular” death sentence. The idea behind it is that the convicted person has a specified number of years (often two) to try to do good works (while behind bars) to restore their face to some degree. What can they do? Good behavior, writing statements of apology, spending their money (or their family’s money) on good causes, etc. When the time is up, a judge or panel decides whether the person has done enough. If they decide yes, the sentence is reduced to life in prison; if no, then the death sentence is carried out. As you can see, everything is oriented around face. This is quite different from the American penal system.

In an honor-shame culture, who you know can be more important than what you know. Who you know and who knows you is an important component of face. Another important component is the history of your actions. In a small relational community, especially, dishonorable actions, even if what we in the west would call minor, can do lasting damage to your face. Like the closely related concept of honor, face is partly ascribed and partly acquired. So is lack of face. If you come from a poor or disreputable family, you have less face to start off with.

Does the Bible talk about face? Absolutely! The following is Jesus talking, Matthew 6 (the Sermon on the Mount):

Be careful not to practice your righteousness in front of others to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven. – Matt. 6:1

What is the principle here? Face! When you practice your righteousness in front of others, you are using a worldly way of building your own face. You do things that people around you see, and they are impressed. This is the very definition of building face. Jesus says that this should not be your motivation for practicing righteousness, because if you do so, the fleeting reward of a bit of face in this life will be all you get. Jesus goes on with specific examples. From verse 2:

So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. – Matt. 6:2-4

Now, I think it is safe to say that most of us do not do this. But it does go on in our society. You can go to Clemson and see walkways with people’s names on them. Our entire department has been renamed after a living donor. You can go to a classical music concert and in the program, you see the names of individual donors and the level of donations they give, silver patrons, gold patrons, platinum patrons, and so on. You see this even in Christian contexts. In the past, traditional churches would put engraved plaques naming special donors on pews and other things in the church building. Even today, if you give to Christian radio, they are willing to announce your name on the radio. And other Christian activities including a recent 5K race also announce their donors and the levels of their donations. Now I apologize if I am stepping on toes here. This passage is not saying that it is some major sin to give in public. But it is saying that doing things for gaining worldly face will, well, only gain you worldly face. There is a much better thing to aim for! Jesus continues in verses 5-6 by talking about people who pray out in public to be seen by others, telling people to pray in a private closet or room, again, forgoing the effort to build your own face.  And in verses 16-18, Jesus talks about those who make a public show of their fasting, again saying instead to hide the fact so that nobody knows (and thinks more highly of you as a result).

Can we extend this principle to other “good” activities? I think so. As a general principle, we should do good things in as private a way as possible. This is not to say that we shouldn’t seek or accept promotions or take on activities just because they lead to some positive recognition. It does mean that we shouldn’t do them for the reason of building our reputation or face. Although not the primary application of this passage, I do think verses 19-21 also speak to the issue of face:

Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. – Matt. 6:19-21

Face is a kind of treasure on earth. The early Greek and Roman philosophers considered it the greatest treasure. And so I do think this passage applies to building one’s face. In fact, I would argue that face is even easier to lose than monetary treasure! Just ask Roseanne (a few months ago) or the founder of Papa John’s Pizza (this week). 

I want to say something about why even Christians are tempted to build face here in this life. At a deep level we all crave honor. We want to be well thought of by those around us. I don’t believe this desire is sin, in and of itself. God made us to be relational people, and the desire to receive praise is good when behind it lies a desire to simply do good, to help others, to make the family or society a little bit better through one’s own actions. The problem is that we have a flawed view of what “those around us” really means. We are forgetting about God! God is also a part of our family and of our church and of our workplace and of our community. And we should desire above all to hear Him praise us! We should define our face by what God says our face is, rather than what other people say. Sometimes the two overlap, but sometimes they are quite different. This is what Jesus is getting at here in the Sermon on the Mount.

There are times when the desire for face is quite destructive. An example is peer pressure at a teenage party. The teenager knows that if she does something that in other contexts (such as in the eyes of her parents) would be considered bad, her status will rise among her peers; that is, she will increase her face. (This of course applies to guys too!) If the person instead remembered God’s perspective, they would understand that face from God is infinitely better than face from one’s peers.

I want to next talk about people who have absolutely no face. One of the things we see from Scripture is that Jesus is in the business of restoring face to those who have no hope. He does this through healings, and the healings are more than just fixing the physical ailments; they are a restoration of face.

An example is the following account from Luke:

As Jesus approached Jericho, a blind man was sitting by the roadside begging. When he heard the crowd going by, he asked what was happening. They told him, “Jesus of Nazareth is passing by.” He called out, “Jesus, Son of David, have mercy on me!” Those who led the way rebuked him and told him to be quiet, but he shouted all the more, “Son of David, have mercy on me!” – Luke 18:35-39

This man had lived for we have no idea how long with his blindness. In that culture, there was no “social net,” so he had to beg for his subsistence. If you think about it, begging is by nature a very shameful thing – it is quite public and beggars were (and are) often subject to ridicule and abuse by bad people who think it is funny to make fun of them. Many people back then (and even today in some societies) assumed that for a person to end up in such a situation meant that there was great sin in his life or in his the lives of his family; that is, they assumed this was a kind of punishment of some kind. In one of Jesus’ healings, His disciples even ask who sinned, the man or his parents, to have caused the particular malady the person had. Jesus answered that neither had.

The social status or face of a blind or otherwise infirm beggar was so low that to even associate with such a person would damage the “face” of the one who did so. It was acceptable – and even a face-elevating act – to give such a person some change if done with sufficient public display so that people would notice, but to, say, bring a meal to the person and eat with them would be an unthinkable action, resulting in a severe loss of face. Ironically, such an action would elevate the face of the beggar for that time – again, face was generally seen as a zero-sum game at best – but once the person left, the beggar would be basically back to his old status. Meanwhile, gossip about the other person would spread and the damage to his reputation would be long-lasting.  Returning to our passage:

Jesus stopped and ordered the man to be brought to him. When he came near, Jesus asked him, “What do you want me to do for you?” “Lord, I want to see,” he replied. Jesus said to him, “Receive your sight; your faith has healed you.” Immediately he received his sight and followed Jesus, praising God. When all the people saw it, they also praised God. – Luke 18:40-43

This passage demonstrates Jesus’ compassion for the man. He doesn’t care about any loss of face He experiences in talking with the beggar. And indeed, the miracle is not only a miracle of healing but a miraculous breaking of the zero-sum game rules of face. Jesus’ status among the people grew with each miracle, but so did the face of those He healed.

I want to give one more example of a healing, from Luke 15:

While Jesus was in one of the towns, a man came along who was covered with leprosy. When he saw Jesus, he fell with his face to the ground and begged Him, “Lord, if You are willing, You can make me clean.” Jesus reached out his hand and touched the man. “I am willing,” He said. “Be clean!” And immediately the leprosy left him. Then Jesus ordered him, “Don’t tell anyone, but go, show yourself to the priest and offer the sacrifices that Moses commanded for your cleansing, as a testimony to them.” Yet the news about Him spread all the more, so that crowds of people came to hear Him and to be healed of their sicknesses. – Luke 15:12-15

There was no lower place of shame, no more complete loss of face, than to have a disease like leprosy. Due to fear of transmission to other people, people like this were supposed to walk around shouting “unclean, unclean” so that others could avoid them. Can you imagine a more shameful circumstance to endure?

Note that the man fell with his literal face to the ground. This was the culturally accepted position when greeting someone in which there was a severe difference in social status or face between two people. A historian from that era notes that when equals would meet they would kiss each other in the same way – either on the lips or each on the other’s cheek – and when there was a difference (but not an extreme difference) in status the higher status individual would kiss the lower status one, typically on the forehead. In light of this, think about when Judas kissed Jesus. There is no indication the kiss was returned; in other words, Judas symbolically greeted Jesus as if Jesus was the inferior! Now think about Paul’s repeated instruction in his letters to greet one another with a holy kiss. Because people were to kiss one another, the implication is to treat each another as social equals regardless of what the culture would normally say. Old/young, rich/poor, even Jew/Gentile – none of it matters in terms of our relationship to one another through Christ! This is very powerful. But let’s return to the passage.

Again, the miraculous healing not only restores the man’s physical body but restores his honor as well. Note too that Jesus touched the man before he was healed, a severe violation of social custom, but an amazing act of compassion! With respect to face, again, the reputation of Jesus also grew from the encounter, even more than Jesus had wished for. Why did He tell people not to talk about Him? Because His time for enduring the cross had not yet come.

We can read these types of accounts in the gospels (of which there are many more) and wonder, “What does this have to do with us?” We cannot heal like Jesus can. Generally, this is true, although I believe miraculous healings do still occur. But there is no one today who can miraculously heal whenever they want to, in the way that Jesus was able to do.

That being said, we are called to be His disciples, and through medicine we can help those at the very bottom of the shame-honor scale. I want to show a video clip of some people that are quite literally restoring people’s faces. This is a bit hard to watch in some places, as some of the people are quite disfigured, so if you have younger children, you might want to think about whether you want them to see it or not. This is a long clip, but I think it is worth every minute.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HVXrD-zgDCw (I want us to watch the first 10 minutes 20 seconds)

Isn’t that powerful? While it is literally an incredibly valuable thing these Christians do, it is also a picture of a deeper spiritual reality involving face. The truth is that we are all called to be in the face-restoring business. For those of us not in the medical profession, one way we do this is by sharing the gospel with people. We will talk more and deeper about shame-honor approaches to the gospel later in this series, but for now, I want to show one more, short clip that looks at the good news from the point of view of face.
This second clip mentions three verses without expanding them out, so I want to present these first. The context of the first two is that the clip explains that Jesus has increased God’s “face” by doing what He was sent to do. In the first verse Jesus is speaking to the Father:

I have brought You glory on earth by finishing the work You gave Me to do. – John 17:4

And in the second, Paul is speaking to those he is writing:

For I tell you that Christ has become a servant of the Jews on behalf of God’s truth, so that the promises made to the patriarchs might be confirmed and, moreover, that the Gentiles might glorify God for his mercy. As it is written: “Therefore I will praise You among the Gentiles; I will sing the praises of Your name.” – Romans 15:8-9

And the final verse explains that Jesus has also increased our face!

I have given them the glory that You gave Me, that they may be one as We are one. – John 17:22


Transcript of this video:

“Face” depends on relationships and actions, who we are and what we do.

Who you are: who you know and who knows you.

Who are you?
Who do you know? Do you know many “important” people?
Who knows you? Who does NOT give you “face”?

The human family is torn apart. Who do YOU avoid or dislike, ignore, neglect, or forget?
We come from a broken human family. Without this relationship, you have no “face”.

What have you done?
Anything you didn’t want people to see?
Said something you’re ashamed of? Ever been selfish or treated people wrongly?

Before God, our true Father, we have all lost face. Except one person.
Only Jesus has true face.

Who is Jesus?
Jesus is king of all nations. Who does he know? God. He is God’s son.
“…no one knows the Father except the Son and anyone to whom the Son chooses to reveal him.” – Matt. 11:27

What has Jesus done?
Jesus gives God face. (John 17:4, Rom. 15:8-9)
He defeats demons and disease. He overcame the shame of death!
There’s more: Jesus shares his glory with his people! (John 17:22)

How?
Jesus changes WHO we are. Jesus restores God’s human family.
God’s children honor their heavenly Father.

How can you receive God’s grace? What can you do?
Seek His face. Change your mind. Give allegiance to Jesus.
If you want face, glorify God, not yourself. Then you will have real honor.

“How can you believe, when you receive glory from one another and do not seek the glory that comes from the only God?” – John 5:44

Let us pray that we would seek God’s face above our own, that we would desire the fame of His name rather than ours. And let us pray that we would be agents of face, servants who help God to turn those without face to Him so that Jesus can heal their deepest parts, remove their shame, and give them face in Him.

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